I wish we had bards on Stromm. Sadly, I think I have played in the last 2 years in groups with 3 bards. Yes. 3. And I can name them all.
Why is that? Bard, imo, is the hardest class to play well and probably the easiest class to not play well. Just my opinion though. I started a bard because I wanted to learn more about how that class works. The reputation of any bad players gets out quickly, so people avoid grouping with them. My former guild has a bard. Everyone thinks he is god. Why? Because he can play 'the mana song'. Sadly that's the only thing he can play. No one has ever seen him twist, he won't pull (he says he can die) yet because he is the only bard, the guild worshipped him.
Now for me, I can probably guess that he isn't considered to be a good bard. In fact, some other negative terms come to mind. But it really has been hard for my necro to learn what songs do what. I can read the description, but it usually makes more sense seeing it in battle.
Also, I hate asking questions in battle, since I know twisting reduces one's ability to talk in long sentences. I did an LDON adventure with a bard, lvl 65. I had no clue of the songs, but I asked. I learned alot but I'm sure the bard thought I was a clueless necro.
As a necro I've learned how it feels to be unappreciated. How many people know Zevfeer's? or MindWrack? At least on Stromm, I get a question weekly, usually in an LDON group, what is that spell.
The other issue with songs is when a song stops and restarts, it goes into the next available slot. Often times I'll have a song in the main buff window in one slot and it moves. When you are raid buffed it is hard to keep track, but that is just raids, yet I've seen it in LDONs.
Nonetheless your rant is valid - too many people don't take the time to ask questions. Not all of us have been playing since day 1 of Beta and I'm always learning new things and having fun.