Interesting comparison. I loved the complexity of VG crafting. The shame was simply that to equip myself I had to spend double the amount of time crafting vs. adventuring.
And to be honest, LOTRO has been pretty time-sinky as well. In fact, that's ALL LOTRO crafting is -- time sink. There really is no other challenge to speak of.
The one thing you haven't been able to comment on that I can is the high level game. Tier 5 is a SERIOUS grind. To be honest, I've lost interest. Because everything slows to a crawl, and yet nothing is really different. Doing a T5 instanced dungeon isn't really much different than doing the Great Barrow at lvl 20. The gameplay really doesn't change much. And so I find myself lacking motivation to do the stuff, because it's all starting to feel like a chore.
Am I expecting too much? Gameplay between lvl 30 and lvl 60 didn't change that much in eq either. Tanks tanked, healers healed, mezzers mezzed, dps dpsed... I guess it was a combination of brand-newness (it was my first MMO, after all), the amazing variety of playsyles of Bards in particular, and the comaraderie of Molto that kept me playing as long as I did.
Even then I found myself spending more and more time on the eq2 forums hoping it would be amazing than I did playing eq1. Then I did the same with Vanguard, hoping it would be better than eq2. With LOTRO, someone told me about open beta, so I didn't have months and months of longing for it to make me disappointed when it wasn't amazing.
And now Age of Conan is on the horizon. It's PvP looks promising. But I don't know if I've got it in me. I've enjoyed being super-casual in LOTRO, taking my time, etc. But somehow being super-casual isn't as gratifying as playing with a group of hard-core types. Especially if there is PvP involved. I simply won't do PvP half-assed. It's all or nothing. I will either dominate, destroy, and wtfpwn or I'll relax and do my little mail quests in the Shire, lol.
I dunno... I keep wishing and dreaming about the perfect game. But I think I might simply be outgrowing them all. I find myself wanting to do stuff like read books or go outside and do stuff in my yard. Ewww! I'm turning into an old geezer.